How to : Be confident.

How to : Be confident.

My mum always always always says how confident I am.

Taking selfies all the time, outgoing and talkative to anyone, comfortable in awkward situations, happy to talk to a group of people and overall confident in myself.

I now realise how lucky I am to be this confident.

Through the years I have become more and more aware of others insecurities, and whilst I haven’t had quiet as many as some, I have had my fair share.

So, whilst I am lucky to be as confident as I am, I am unlucky in my insecurities but I think I have found a way that’s made me this confident in myself and I thought I’d share.

Rule no1 : Don’t give a s**t about anyone 
A pretty simple one and a rule I have been living by since school. Its a hard one to get used to, but your worst enemy is worrying what everyone else thinks, says, likes or even hates about you. Who cares? You shouldn’t!
Maybe if they were someone worth while, like David Beckham orrrrr even Kim Kardashian, they might be worthy to have an opinion. (Even then im not sure I’d care). 
Rule no2 : Take care of yourself
Another pretty simple rule and one everyone should be taking a little more seriously – including myself!
Taking care of yourself will give you a ultimate confidence boost and do wonders for everything else. Feeling confident comes from feeling good, healthy and fit, and nothing does that better than eating clean, excersise regularly and sleeping well.
Rule no3 : Don’t be afraid to treat yourself once in a while 
My mum probably won’t agree with me on this one, since I tend to spend way more money than I actually have, but it’s something that can really come under all three rules. Spend money and treat yourself. You want that topshop dress and you’ve just been paid, go get it. You want another MAC lipstick, why not. You deserve it, you earned the money, you want to treat yourself – do it!! 
Rule no4 : Stop comparing!
Its a common thing in our social media world to compare ourselves to everyone out there. Just scrolling through instagram can get yourself looking at fellow ladies thinking various things – ‘why don’t I have lips like that’, ‘I wish I had a flat tummy like her’, ‘she has a better style than me’ or even ‘I’ll never be as good looking as her’.  
It can be tough to be a young women in this social media world were ‘beautiful’ women can be found and followed. The key thing to remember, is confidence is beauty itself. Those women we compare ouselves to have their own flaws and insecurities, but have overcome and chipped away at them, to be the ‘beautiful’ women you compare yourself too. 
Take their confidence, and fuel it for your own. Want a flatter tummy, work out and get it! Want Kylie Jenner lips, learn some make-up secrets to achieve it.
Rule no5 : Learn to love your flaws
I often pointed out my flaws and worried about them. Unfortunatly, hat didn’t change them. My bum wasn’t ‘perky’ enough so instead of comparing and worrying, I excersised and started to love what I have. I will never have the perfect skin nor complexion, so I started to look for make-up and skin care to help me achieve what I wanted. Your flaws are what you make them, so why not work on them and work around them, don’t let them define you!!
Remember : You’re not the only one with insecurities and lack of confidence. 
Remain : Positive.
Do you have any tips for people lacking confidence?
Maybe you struggle with your own confidence -I’d love to know what you think of my tips so why not comment below.

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  1. 11/08/2015 / 3:59 pm

    So many great ideas, I need to learn to love my flaws and stop comparing myself to other people. I recently did a post about feeling confident on my blog

    Emma emhasrednails

    • 11/08/2015 / 4:33 pm

      Ahh thank you. Learning to love your flaws is truly the hardest but most rewarding. I will check out your post lovely, thank you for sharing xx

  2. 11/08/2015 / 4:28 pm

    Such a positive post, loved and agreed with everything you've mentioned! It's great that you're a really confident person, I still need to work on it but I do feel that I'm more confident now than I was back in high school and I think that's down to not being able to fully be myself around certain people who always brought me down. Really helpful post, thanks so much for sharing this lovely!!

    Nabeela x

    • 11/08/2015 / 4:37 pm

      Awh thank you lovely , high school is for sure the worst time confidence wise. When I was at school I was so worried what everyone thought and like you I felt like I couldn't be myself around certain people. I'm glad you liked the post lovely xxx

  3. 11/08/2015 / 8:26 pm

    Honestly a very helpful, positive post! I think the worst thing is just complaining or moping about what you aren't happy with, I agree it definitely doesn't change them. I like the treat yourself most, we all deserve it haha xx

    • 13/08/2015 / 12:10 pm

      Ah thank you lovely!! I agree, I try and stop moaning about things and put my energy into doing something about it!! Oh excatly, we all deserve a treat once in a while! xx

  4. 12/08/2015 / 12:13 am

    Wow ! I just found a great blog here! Thank you for your great sharing. I really need it. – be confident!
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    • 13/08/2015 / 12:11 pm

      Ahhh thank you so much! I will do, thank you for sharing xx

    • 13/08/2015 / 12:12 pm

      Thank you so much lovely! Hopefully you'll come back soon xx

  5. 13/08/2015 / 12:39 pm

    These are all great ideas! I'm in the same boat as you; I've always been "confident" but it's kind annoying that because of this, people assume that I don't have insecurities too. Love this post!
    xx, Pia
    @ gmybagsjetlags

    • 13/08/2015 / 4:24 pm

      Ah thank you! Yeah exactly, im glad you liked the post! xx

  6. 14/08/2015 / 3:31 am

    Another fantastic post! I have a lot of insecurities, but I don't share them. One thing that helps me be confident is, like you mentioned, not caring what others think and taking care of myself. When I feel like I am in shape and am wearing something nice I feel so much better about myself and I can't help but be confident!

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