Getting married is a huge commitment and you shouldn’t enter into it until you’re sure you’re ready. Before you can build a strong marriage, you have to spend time working on yourself. Travelling is one of the best ways to build skills that will serve you well in your relationship, whether you choose to travel alone or together. Here are some things you gain from travelling before getting married.
When you travel alone, you’re forced to build your confidence and independence. You have to make yourself responsible for your own safety, health and you need to manage your finances. These are all great foundation lessons for marriage. Although marriage is about being able to rely on the other person to care for you, you should also be able to care for yourself. Having your own independence will mean the relationship doesn’t feel like it’s suffocating you.
Reassess Your Goals
Before getting married, you need to think about what you want out of life. Where do you want to live? Do you want kids or is your career more important? These are questions you need to know the answer to before you consider getting married. The last thing you want to do is marry someone who wants completely different things to you. Travelling, on student tours for example, is one of the best ways to find answers to these types of questions.
Learn to Let Go
Travelling can make you feel more at ease. When you’re at home, the daily stresses of life and routine can make you feel rigid. Being away, whether alone or with a partner can help you to let things go a bit easier. Many couples find they argue less while they’re away because they haven’t got so much on their plates. Taking that relaxed way of life back home and into your relationship will ensure you have a no-fuss policy for dealing with disagreements.
Get Your Me-Time
Marriage can be the start of a completely different life. You may make plans to continue to travel together, but there’s nothing like having a bit of alone time to process your own thoughts. If you plan to start a family, that me-time will get even thinner. So, it’s important to grab the opportunity to tick some things off your bucket list while you can. No matter how much you both swear that things won’t change, it’s inevitable they will.
When you travel, you’ll often have a budget to stick to. This is great preparation for setting up a life and home with someone. You may need to work out who will pay what when you begin living together and there may be times where one of you has to subsidize the others wage. Having a good financial plan in place can help you to avoid getting into unnecessary arguments or having any nasty surprises. Travelling is a great start to learning how to budget well together.
You may not have the same opportunities to travel after you’re married, so grab the bull by the horns while you can.