Getting married is a hugeeee deal! It’s a massive commitment, one which shouldn’t be taken lightly. I will be honest and say, it wasn’t until the latter stages of wedding planning that I realised the commitment I was about to sign myself up to. Colleagues were tomutter divorce rates, and well, it’s pretty easy to get panicked.
Apparently around 41% of couples end up getting divorced!
Having said that, you’ve made the choice because you want to spend the rest of your life with you partner – wahoo! So, before you start scaring yourself, here’s a couple of things to consider going forward into married life!
It’s gonnah be tough
Marriage is hard. There will be times when you question as to why you chose your partner in the first place. You will argue, possibly worse than ever before. It’s just the nature of the beast I am afraid. You live in each others pocket and you both have eachother’s best interest at heart. It’s no surprise you will disagree and bicker countless times. The real truth behind it is communication. You’ll need to cultivate strong communication skills, and be willing to compromise, even when you don’t want to. The dynamic does change once you get married – even if you already lived together for a while before that.
Don’t freak out if your marriage is hard. As long as the good outweighs the bad and you’re both happy for the most part, you’re normal. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from a professional if you need it!
Grab some me time every now and again
Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you have to live in each other’s pockets. You shouldn’t be joined at the hip; you’re still individuals with your own interests, hobbies, and friends. Spend some time apart, and don’t feel guilty. Enjoy it. When you come back to one another you’ll have far more to talk about!
This can be pretty hard to figure out sometimes, yet some me time is always needed. Grab a coffee every other weekend with a pal. Send him off to football and let yourself relax on the sofa. Whatever it may be, do it for yourself. We all know how annoying listening to Fifa on the telly can be!
Do Pick Your Battles
It can be tempting to go on at your partner for the smallest things when you live together, whether it’s leaving wet towels on the bed or something else. Annoying, yes, but does it warrant a full blown row? Pick your battles wisely. Sometimes, it’s just worth breathing and moving on!
Keep the arguing short and sweet
I’m not sure how many times exactually but this advice came up soooo much at my hen do and bridal shower. NEVER fall asleep on an argument and keep the arguments short and sweet. There is nothing worse than dragging something out un-necessary. When in a faued, look down at your his and hers wedding ring sets and remember the good times – like your wedding, and move on! Kiss and make up if you kno what I mean!
Date nights are always a good idea
It’s sooo easy to fall in a trap of just mooching, every night. And whilst there’s nothing wrong with Netflix and chill, sometimes you want to snazz it up. Especially after several years of marriage. You know what I mean, keep the spark alive as they say! Have nights out, romantic dinners and evenings where you ditch the phone and immerse yourself into each other!