The same but different 🏡 Still trying to find p The same but different 🏡 Still trying to find places for everything. It’s just a heck of a lot of shuffling when moving isn’t it🌿 

Still very much in love with our rustic dining table from next as we were when we bought it a couple of years ago! And thankfully we managed to get 4 more matching chairs 2 years later, since we no longer have our booth! Perfectly compliments our new kitchen diner! I keep saying it, but we just need colour now! 
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No transformation Tuesday here this week, but hope No transformation Tuesday here this week, but hopefully next!🤞 We still have a 5 day wait until our wardrobes are delivered and that’s our biggest set back at the mo. Both bedroom 2 & 3 are full of clothes and unpacked boxes 📦 As daft as it may sound, getting these new wardrobes should be a real relief and the turning point for our upstairs! 
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Aside from that, we still have lots of pieces to shop for our lounge and bedroom! If only that’s what I could do all day rather than work, ay! Where’s your favourite place to shop furniture? I’d love to hear your recommendations 🙌🏻
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It’s a good morning Monday from me 🌊 The beau It’s a good morning Monday from me 🌊 The beautiful Sunday sunshine certainly made up for the drizzle we had on Saturday. We soaked up the sunshine and of course the sea breeze, trying to get out of the house, within reason ofcourse. We strolled up and down the seafront several times yesterday and Rhodie was well and truly knackered after. 
I hope you all had a lovely weekend, and a even better week. I myself am so excited for next weekend as it means we finally get our bedroom furniture, including the hotly anticipated wardrobes 🙌🏻
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Transformation Tuesday #2 in our new home 🌿 The Transformation Tuesday #2 in our new home 🌿 The garden! 
Thankfully we managed to get it done pretty quickly much to our delight. Having a puppy and 20 odd patio slabs for him to do his business on got pretty tedious pretty quickly! 
Now to start the garden planning - I’m actually looking forward to getting green fingered this spring! 👩‍🌾
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How much coffee is too much coffee for a Monday?☕️ Asking for a friend 🙈 Today we get our garden turfed and boy am I excited to see green outside our patio doors and a patio that isn’t littered with dog poo or wee! 
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Frosty walkies ❄️🧣Brrrr it’s bloody cold Frosty walkies ❄️🧣Brrrr it’s bloody cold out there. Minus 1 on our afternoon walk! But Rhodie LOVED it! Met lots of pooches and very much knackered from tumbling in the frost! 
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WFH Lunch breaks consist of carpet reads and coffe WFH Lunch breaks consist of carpet reads and coffee 📚 Determined to smash my 2021 reading target and where better to start than with The Killer Across the Table. What you starting your 2021 reading with? 
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HAPPY MONDAY ✨The first in 2021! My 3 weeks off HAPPY MONDAY ✨The first in 2021! My 3 weeks off went bloody quick, I think it had something to do with being so busy.
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Despite living in a new build apartment for 4 years before painting, the urge to paint in the new house is so strong. Everything just looks so bare! All white homes tell me your secrets! 
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Christmas is still on in the P Household 🎄🎁 Christmas is still on in the P Household 🎄🎁 Unlike so many on my feed, we keep our deccys up until January and I’m bloody glad. It’s only been a week since we put them up 😂 and this is the first time in weeks we’ve been taking it slow and embracing the Christmas period. 
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The house is a mess, and the dining table is just how we left it Christmas Day evening ( along with lots of presents ) and we’ve only managed a quick hoover. But Christmas movies are still high on the agenda and left over turkey is still a plenty! 
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Thank goodness for the Chrimbo Limbo period 🙌🏻
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A very late but still relevant Merry Christmas fro A very late but still relevant Merry Christmas from us 🎄🎁 Rhodie looked very majestic on Christmas morning waiting for his Christmas sack of goodies! 
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Charlotte – Nichole

07/10/2018 Dear Diary...

Babies? NO – I just got married!

IF ONLY I had a pound for every baby related question after our wedding, damn I would be a rich women. I would have stayed in Koh Samui longer for sure! Within days, no wait, hours of getting married, we were asked what our plans for children were. I vaguely remember being asked at our bloody wedding ( I was a tad tipsy so that’s why it’s vague! )

Why is it expected babies will be immanent?

I know with every stage in your life, there is always an interest as to when you will take the next step. You know, been together a while, when you moving out? Living together…when you getting engaged? Got engaged…when’s the wedding? Married and well, when are you popping out babies. Just the fact of life yeah?

But honestly, what is with it? I LOVE that people clearly care and take interest in our lives, but what, what if we didn’t want children? What if we were struggling to have them? Why do we already have to be thinking of the next thing, when we have ONLY just landed on this lily pad? Is there something wrong with sitting still for just a little while?

There is a constant belief that we should thinking one or two steps ahead, and by George we should, just not all the time! Getting married is a hugeee commitment. It’s one that took months to even organise. We have only just got over the day and bloody ‘ell Brenda, you already want to talk kids!

I find it incredibly frustrating that we are programmed to believe that everything is a step to ‘success’. Whether it be relationship wise, career paths or everything else. It was only when I started on the relationship ladder, so to speak, that I started to realise that it’s something we ALL think. It’s almost like, nothing is every good enough!

I’m not just talking babies, I’m talking life. The step you just conquered, yeah that’s greattt but babe, it’s not good enough!

STOP being so hard on yourself, and each other, and expecting the next thing right after you achieved the last. What happened to sitting back and relishing in what you already have?

What’s your point Charlotte?

Whilst it may just seem like I’m having a go, I’m not. There is a point to this post!

All in all, my little blast isn’t me saying piss off with the baby comments ( they will always come, whatever I say ), just piss off with the expectation that now I have tackled one thing, I will be straight onto the next!

We ALL guilty of this little assumption, in every walk of life, and for our own mental health, it needs to cease. There is no rush on life. No competition. No right way of doing things. Just because you have tackled the latest thing off, doesn’t mean you have to start right away on the next. You do you. And no one else.

I have often voiced my opinion to fellow friends and colleagues and we are all in agreement. Within friendship groups and circles of family, there is the competition of life. Who can buy a property first. Who can pass their driving test the quickest. Who gets married and starts a family before all the rest.

And whilst many would hate to admit it, most of us do look over one to many times at what others are doing, and question our very own path. Heck I used to a lot, especially when I was at university. Question is, Why do we even care what everyone else our age is doing? Why do we even care what our parents did when they were married? That’s for them!

This whole ‘on to the next step‘ plays right into that. We are sooo wrapped up in what everyone else is doing, what our elders did and what is expected to be ‘successful’, we forget what is right for us, or what we really want!

All in all, I have stopped looking over, back or too anyone else for what they are doing and what I should be. I am doing me. We are doing us. Do what’s right for you and no one else. If we want to be married for 10 years before we consider sprogs, so be it. ps. you can ask those poxy questions all you like, just admit that sometimes not everyone does the ‘usual’ timeline of events.

Am I just rambling on on this one?

Do you get questions after questions?

Why do you think we all cling onto the next ‘step’?

Get a conversation started in the comment section below.

 

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