Dear Diary : How I’ve stopped planning my life!

I am the guiltiest person when it comes to planning and prepping everythinggggggg in life. I really don’t deal too well with free time and day’s out, get togethers or anything that are not well planned and briefed.

Okay, I’m a organisation freak. And I would plan my whole life if I could.

In recent years, I have totally felt out of control when it comes to my life. I’m at the end of a education and this is pretty much where my childhood Charlotte stopped planning because heck, I would be ‘well old‘ then!

Alas, I’m 25, educated, home owner and newlywed and thinking what in heck. Now what?! Granted, I’ve got the bits crossed off that I thought I would ( degree, husband, home ), but other things cease to exist. And with that I feel failure.

I’ve chatted a lot on here about life plans and how I seem to have one, but never really as to why we should abandon ship and bury those ideals.

In the last 6 months, after having little to no plan to fall back on, I have abandoned that very ship. Now I’m sharing how I’ve got on….

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Timeline be gone

Yup, that terrible timeline I had etched into my mind has all but gone. I no longer keep tabs on what I expected to achieve this far into my career, or at this age. Nor do I let myself, or others for that matter, judge and compare my current situation vs others at my age.

I have, from this small act, felt such huge relief. Taking away the pressure and fretful thinking of where I ‘should’ be, I started to enjoy where I currently am and what I am achieving a whole lot more.

Disappointment? What disappointment?

That pesky timeline I have constructed for myself gave me all sorts of disappointment. Whilst I am happy and content in my non-related to my degree job, and my 2 bed apartment without a garden nor garage, my timeline attitude led me to believe I should be disappointed.

Since I have booted that timeline attitude in the arse, I have truly realized my own happiness, and it’s only my timeline that was overshadowing my current success!

Just giving it a boot, I feel much lighter and free to take whatever path towards my success, even if its the slightly longer, de-toured version to that of what I expected.

Eyes wide open

We can all have tunnel vision, especially on things that we want more than anything. Having that timeline and ultimate goal really made me a tunnel vision mad women who really didn’t consider anything that didn’t gain me a step to my success.

Since closing down the ‘life plan’ I have been much more open to opportunities that show their face. I’m less considerate to the impact on the ‘end goal’ and just enjoying the journey. I’m rather excited to see where life will take me by just jumping when I get the chance.

Life really can throw some curve balls, and whilst we may want to control every aspect possible, it’s just not. Giving yourself unreasonable standards, deadlines and timelines to live by can have a huge negative effect on your attitude to life. It can leave you feeling disappointed, dis-satisfied and pressured. Whilst you really have no reason to feel any of those things.

Do you put too much pressure on yourself? Are you living by a unreasonable timeline? Any tips for those that are? Be sure to start a conversation below.