I really wish I was born being one of those that don’t give two hoots on what anyone else thinks. But, I was blessed with an overthinking mind which often worried what everyone else thought of me.
Am I cool? Am I nice? Do people want to be friends with me? Do I look on style? Am I attractive?
Maybe it’s being married to my man, or maybe it’s the gift of age but I have really started to care less.
This year, I really have been creating lots of content surrounding New Year and the dawning of a new one. I know how triggering the idea and prospect of a new year can be, especially when you have no idea what you may be faced with.
Last year everything was pencilled in for me, with dates to work towards and events that were exciting to say the least. This is the first year I have ever really been faced with a blank canvas per say and I’m determined to make the most of the clean sheet.
I have spoken to many brides who struggled after the wedding just because it seems there’s nothing to look forward to. Especially when you head into the following year where the only title is ‘the year after we got married‘.
I am more determined than ever not to fall into the trap of disappointment or upset as this is the year following my wedding year.
It certainly was a busy, pretty stressful but darn awarding year.
In the last 21 days, I have been evaluating, considering and pondering on how I should tackle the brand new year. And the only way I could capture my complete and utter thoughts and feelings towards the new year is as follows.
The year I don’t give a f**k.
Yup. No f**ks given here. I have spent many years worrying about others far too much, and this year is the time for change.
Here’s a couple of new ideals that I will be fully embracing this year, to really have a IDGAF attitude in 2019.
Be Considerate, but not too much
Whilst I will be not giving two hoots this year, I don’t want to become a complete raging bitch, so I will of course maintain some of my consideration.
But my point here is, don’t get too carried away. There have been many a time where I haven’t said or done something because I’m worried about how some one else would feel, or how it would effect them. And yet, when they were faced with the same dilemma, they went straight on ahead and did what they want.
Don’t ask, don’t get!
How many times have we not asked something because we are worried about how we will be portrayed for asking?
Think you deserve a pay rise? Ask and stand your ground. Think a brand should be working with you? Email them and tell them why. Been asked to participate in a collaboration but want payment – ask!
Ask questions, push what you believe and live knowing you tried to get what you want. Remember, the worst will not be any different to not asking!
Jump at those opportunities, and even those risks you are a lil worried about. This is the year to take yourself out of your cushty life and live a little bit risky.
There have been a fair few risks I have taken previously and so far they have done wonders. PLUS I even have more faith in myself and my ability!
Put yourself first
That’s pretty much my wholeeeee point in this post. Put yourself, your wants, desires and ambitions first. Everyone else seems to most of the time so why should you be any different?
If you want to grow and achieve in your blogging, get on the email and drop brands a line. Don’t be scared of the worst, when you would be no worse off than you are now, not doing anything!
I truly believe there is nothing selfish with putting yourself first, especially if it will benefit you, and others in the long run. Being happy, content and achieving in every day is not a selfish ambition.
I will be doing all of these things moving forward across the months. I have seen many people thrive and enjoy because they themselves have become a little more selfish, and jumped when they had the chance.
Is this the year you Don’t give a f**k? Will you be doing any of these above? As always, let me know your thoughts in the comment section below, and be sure to share some ideals you will be embracing this year!